Kulankhulana kosagwirizana ndi liwu lachilankhulo limaphatikizapo mbali iliyonse yolankhulana kuposa mawu anu. Ndi nkhope yanu, kukhudzana ndi diso lanu, manja anu, mkhalidwe wanu, mau anu, kukhudzidwa kwanu, komanso ngakhale malo anu. Malinga ndi zomwe adanena, Darlene Price, mphunzitsi wamkulu wotsogolera mawu ndi wolemba "Well Said." Iye akuyesa kuyankhulana kosagwirizana kungatenge 65 peresenti mpaka 93 peresenti yaikulu kuposa mawu anu enieni.
Ngakhale kuti izi zingamveke zoopsa, kukongola kwa kulankhulana kosagwirizana ndikuti aliyense angathe kukhala wabwino. Lingalirani luso lomwe lingapangidwe, kuyendetsedwa bwino, ndi kugwiritsidwa ntchito mwakhama kuntchito-ndipo chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuti akazi azikumbukira. Kusiyana kwa kusiyana pakati pa amayi ndi amai pazinthu zosawerengeka kungapangitse akazi kuti asatengere ntchito mozama ndikukwera makampani, Price akuti.
Mukufuna kutsimikiza kuti kulankhulana kwanu sikukuthandizani kuti mupite patsogolo kuntchito? Tsatirani njira izi.
Sungani ndi Nod Ndi Cholinga
Kodi mudadziwa kuti muli ndi mawonekedwe osiyana oposa 10,000? Ben Sorensen, yemwe ndi mphunzitsi wamkulu pa Optimum Associates, anati: "Amayi samagwiritsa ntchito zambiri, koma amatha kuzindikira, kutanthauzira, ndi kuyesa nkhope ya ena."
Ndipo mawu ena ali ndi matanthauzo osiyanasiyana kwa akazi kuposa momwe amachitira amuna. Tsatirani ndi kumwetulira, mwachitsanzo.
"Kutsekemera ndi chizindikiro cha thupi chothandizira," inatero Price. Ndichinthu choyipa, chifukwa chake amayi amamwetulira kuposa amuna sizinali zabwino. Ngakhale kukhala wolemekezeka, wofikirika ndi wovomerezeka n'kofunika, ngati uli wochulukirapo-makamaka pafupipafupi kapena nthawi zina zotsutsana-ndiye anthu sangakuchitireni mozama.
Pair yomwe imamwetulira ndi mutu kapena kupweteka ndipo mungakhale mukudziika nokha pangozi yaikulu.
"Pamene iwe uli ndi mwamuna, makamaka pa mtundu uliwonse wa kukambirana, gwiritsani ntchito thupi mwakuthupi," limatero Price. "Palibe (mutu) wokhotakhota-ndiwo pansi. Gwiritsani mutu wanu molunjika monga momwe mwamunayo nthawi zambiri alili. [Pitirizani] nkhope yanu musalowerere ndi nod kokha ndikumwetulira ngati pali chifukwa. "
Pitirizani Kupeza Zachiwiri
Pa malo apamwamba, kukhudzana maso kumalankhula za chidaliro ndi chiyanjano. Choncho, mukamayankhula pamsonkhanowu, mukufuna kuyang'ana maso kwa masekondi awiri ndi munthu aliyense m'chipindacho, kuyambira ndi aliyense yemwe ali wamkulu kwa inu. "Icho chimati ndinu odalirika, ndinu oyenera kuwamvetsera ndi mtima wonse ndi zomwe mukuzinena," akutero Price. Vuto ndilo pamene kugonana kwa maso kuli lalifupi-kapena kuposa-kuposa. Pazithunzi kapena nthawi yopanikizika kwambiri, ambiri a ife timakhala ndi diso, tikuyesera kupeza chitonthozo m'denga kapena pansi. Izi zikusonyeza kufooka. Masekondi oposa asanu, pambali inayo, akukhala mantha kapena chibwenzi-palibe chomwe chiri choyenera pa bizinesi.
Pangani Zochitika Zochepa ndi Zowonjezereka
Kodi mumadwala ndi "Mikono ya Velcro?" Ndicho mtengo chimene chimatcha icho pamene manja anu apamwamba akuphatikizidwa kumtundu wanu, kukupangitsani kuti muwoneke kuti muli aang'ono komanso otsekedwa.
"Azimayi adzakhala ndi manja awo omwe amachokera kumapiko awo okhawo amatsogola osati manja awo onse," akadatero Price. Zizindikiro za amuna, mosiyana, zimakhala zochokera kumapewa awo, kupanga zochepa, zosakanikirana zomwe zikuwonetsetsanso komanso zowoneka mwachidwi. "Mpata wogwiritsira ntchito manja anu mu zokambirana kumapangitsa kukhalapo kwa thupi ndi mphamvu kwa akazi," Sorensen akuvomereza.
Choncho yambani kupanga malo ambiri. Ngati inu mukuimirira ndikugwirana manja anu m'chiuno, yesetsani kugulira pang'ono kuti apange malo. Ngati mutakhala pamsonkhano, yesetsani kuyika magalasi anu patebulo ndikuyika manja anu palimodzi kuti mupange phiri.
Komanso, peĊµetsani manja anu. Amayankhula mitsempha ndi mavuto.
Imani ndiyende Monga Mtsogoleri
Zithunzi zimatanthauza utsogoleri, akuti Price.
Momwe mumayimira ndi momwe mumalowa m'chipinda zonse ndi zofunika kwambiri. Ndipo mofananamo ndi momwe amai amadzichepetsera okha ndi manja awo, amachitanso zimenezi ndi momwe amachitira, poyendetsa phazi pamzake. Amayi amakhalanso olemera kwambiri pamtunda umodzi kuposa wina, kuwapangitsa kuti asinthe mauno awo ndikuwoneka ngati akulephera. Mmalo mwake, imani ndi kulemera kwako kogawanika pa phazi lililonse. Mudzawoneka wotchingidwa, wokhoza, wotsogolera, ndi wolamulira. Mofananamo, mukakhala pamsonkhano, mukufuna kuti mapewa anu akhudze kumbuyo kwa mpando, manja anu mofanana ali pazitsulo zonse ziwiri, ndipo, motero, mapazi onse akukhudza pansi. Pamene mukufuna kufotokoza, komabe ndi pamene mukudalira.
Lekani kudzifunsa nokha
Mawu anu, kapena momwe mumamvekera pamene mukuyankhula, ali ndi udindo wa pafupifupi 40 peresenti ya mawu anu, 'malinga ndi kafukufuku wochokera ku UCLA. Ndipo ndi liwu, pali kusiyana kosiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi kusiyana ndi mtundu wina uliwonse wosayankhulana, akuti Price. Amuna atatu apamwamba kwambiri kwa akazi: upspeak (kapena uptalk), kulankhula mofulumira, ndi kuzungulira.
- Upspeak ndi chiwonetsero chokwera kumapeto kwa mawu omwe amachititsa kumveka ngati funso, zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osatsimikizika pa zomwe mukunena.
- Lankhulani mofulumira kwambiri ndipo omvera anu sangakumvetsereni. Pafupifupi 150 mawu pa mphindi ndilo liwiro kwambiri.
- Kuphimba kumaphatikizapo kuthetsa mawu anu ndi oyenerera ndi mafunso: "Kodi simukuganiza?" "Kulondola?"
Lembani nokha ndipo mvetserani kuti muwone ngati muli ndi chizolowezi chochita chilichonse cha pamwambapa, kapena funsani anzanu kuti azichita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Komanso, onetsetsani kuti mumveka mokweza kuti mumve. Kawirikawiri amayi amalankhulidwa pamisonkhano ndipo akhoza kukhala chifukwa chavotu yawo, akuti Sorensen.
Yambani Nthawi Yogwiritsira Ntchito.
Pomaliza, apa pali mphamvu imodzi yogwiritsira ntchito zida zanu: Nthawi zonse yesani dzanja . Pangani izo kukhala zolimba, zouma, ndi zogwira mtima. Ndipo musaiwale kuyang'ana maso, nanunso.
Ndili ndi Kelly Hultgren