Mvetserani Ndi Maso Anu
Kulankhulana kosagwirizana kwa nkhope kuchokera ku nkhope kumalo a thupi.
Zizindikiro, zizindikiro, ndi kugwiritsa ntchito malo ndizofunikira pakulankhulana kosagwirizana. Kusiyanasiyana kwa chikhalidwe m'thupi la thupi, mawonekedwe a nkhope, kugwiritsira ntchito malo, makamaka, manja, ndikutseguka kwakukulu kutanthauzira molakwika.
Kuti muyese luso lanu potanthauzira kulankhulana kosalankhula, tengani mafunso awa osayalankhulana ndi mafunso ochokera ku yunivesite ya California ku Santa Cruz. Kugwirizana kulikonse kumabweretsa mafunso ojambula ndi mafunso.
Chimodzi mwa zokondweretsa kwambiri - komabe chokhumudwitsa - kusinthanitsa kosagwirizana komwe ndakhala ndikuwonapo kunachitika ku ofesi ya olemba pa yunivesite yaikulu. Wophunzira wa mayiko osiyanasiyana anayesa kulumikiza vuto lake kwa mkazi wachikulire, woyera. Iye ankalankhula mobwerezabwereza akukweza manja ake kuti asamalankhulane bwino.
Anayesa kuyendetsa mtunda wautali pakati pa iye mwini ndi wogwira ntchito ku yunivesite yemwe adalimbikitsanso kuti asungitse mtunda wake.
Pamapeto pa zokambiranazo, wophunzirayo akumuthamangitsa kutalika kwa tsamba lapamwamba pomwe akugwirana manja ndi moto. Wogwira ntchitoyo anandiuza pambuyo pake kuti adachita mantha ndi wophunzira amene akungoyesa kumuwuza kuti analipira kale ndalama zomwe adangomaliza kulandira kuchokera ku yunivesite.
Kafukufuku wina ku UCLA wasonyeza kuti mpaka 93 peresenti ya kuyankhulana kwabwino kumatsimikiziridwa ndi zolemba zina. Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti zotsatira za ntchito zinatsimikiziridwa 7 peresenti ndi mawu ogwiritsidwa ntchito, 38 peresenti ndi khalidwe la mawu, ndi 55 peresenti mwa osalankhulana.
Ngati mukufuna kusokoneza malingaliro anu kapena momwe mungachitire mwatsatanetsatane, mvetserani mwatsatanetsatane khalidwe lanu losaoneka. Mutha kukhala ndi mau ndi mawu anu, koma thupi lanu kuphatikizapo kakang'ono kwambiri maonekedwe ndi kusuntha kungakupangitse maganizo anu ndi malingaliro anu. Makamaka kwa wowerenga waluso wazinthu zosawerengeka, ambiri a ife tiri mabuku otseguka.
Ziribe kanthu komwe mumagwirira ntchito, kukonza luso lanu pomasulira mauthenga osalankhula kudzakuthandizani kuwonjezera kuyankhula kwanu ndi munthu wina. Gawo langa loyankhulana ndikutanthauzira. Kutanthauzira kutanthauzira kulankhulana kosagwirizana kukuwonjezera kukulitsa kwanu kulankhulana.
Malangizo omvetsetsa Kulankhulana kosagwirizana
- Dziwani kuti anthu amalumikizana pamagulu ambiri. Onetsetsani maonekedwe awo, kukhudzana ndi maso , malo, manja ndi mapazi, kayendetsedwe ka thupi ndi kusungidwa, ndi maonekedwe ndi ndime pamene akuyenda kwa inu. Chizindikiro chirichonse chikulankhulana chinachake ngati mumamvetsera ndi maso anu. Khalani akuzoloƔera kuwonetsa kulankhulana kosagwiritsidwa ntchito komanso kusatha kwanu kulankhulana momasuka kungakule ndi kuchita.
- Ngati mau a munthu akunena chinthu chimodzi komanso kulankhulana kwawo kosanenedwa kumanena kuti, simukumvetsera kulankhulana kosagwirizana - ndipo izi ndizobwino.
- Onetsetsani anthu ofuna ntchito chifukwa cha kulankhulana kwawo. Mutha kuwerenga malemba kuchokera momwe wopemphayo akukhalira mu malo olandirira alendo. Kulankhulana kwapadera pafunsoli kuyeneranso kufotokozera luso la woyenerera, mphamvu, zofooka, ndi zodetsa za inu.
- Onetsetsani kulankhulana kosagwirizana pakati pa kufufuza kapena zochitika zina zomwe mukufunikira mfundo ndi zikhulupiriro zomveka. Apanso, osalankhula angasonyeze zambiri kuposa mawu a munthu.
- Potsogolera msonkhano kapena kuyankhula ndi gulu, dziwani kuti mawu osalankhula angakuuzeni kuti:
- pamene mwalankhula mokwanira,
- pamene wina akufuna kuyankhula, ndi
- Chisokonezo cha gululo ndi momwe amachitira ndi mawu anu.
Mverani kwa iwo ndipo mudzakhala mtsogoleri wabwino komanso wokamba nkhani.
Kumvetsetsa kulankhulana kosalankhula bwino kumachita bwino. Njira yoyamba pakuchita ndikuzindikira mphamvu zowankhulana. Ndikutsimikiza kuti mwakhala mukudandaula kuti zomwe munthu anakuuzani zinali zabodza. Mvetserani kumatumbo anu.
Kuphatikiza ndi zochitika pamoyo wanu, maphunziro, zikhulupiliro ndi zonse zomwe mumapanga kale, ndizo katswiri wanu wamkati mwa kulankhulana kosagwirizana.