Kugulitsa Kumayamba Pambuyo Poyamba "Ayi"
Chinthu chofunika kukumbukira pamene kuphunzira kulimbana ndi kutsutsa ndi malangizo a Brian Tracy .
"Palibe amene amasamala zomwe mankhwala anu ali nazo. Zonse zomwe amazisamala ndi zomwe mankhwala anu amachita."
Njira Yotsutsa
Poganiza kuti mudzamva zotsutsana (zomwe mukufuna) panthawi yogulitsa kapena kukambirana kwanu, luso loyamba lodziwika bwino ndikutulutsa zofuna za mthengayo kapena zakuyankhulani. Palibe malamulo ovuta komanso ofulumira okhudza kutsutsa, koma ngati mwatsata njira zogulitsa ndi kuyankhulana monga momwe tafotokozera m'nkhani zotsatizanazi, mutha kale kugonjetsa zotsutsana zambiri ndipo mudzazindikira zambiri. Panthawi yoyembekezera, kutsutsana kudzakhala kutsogolo ndi pakati. Ngati mutatha kupitako kumalo osungirako nyumba , dziwani kuti mudagonjetsa chotsutsana chachikulu pakupeza mzere woyamba wa chitetezo.
Zambiri zomwe mungatsutsane zidzakambidwa panthawi yofotokozera . Pa sitepe iyi, mutha kuuza wogula anu chifukwa chomwe mankhwala anu, ntchito kapena luso lanu liwathandiza kuthana ndi zosowa zawo.
Makasitomala ena adzakhala omasuka kupereka zotsutsana zawo, pomwe ena adzasunga maganizo awo pafupi ndi mavalidwe awo.
Kuti mudziwe kutsutsa, muyenera kufunsa mafunso ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, mafunso otseketsa mayesero. Ngati mankhwala anu akwaniritsa zosowa zofunikira, muyenera kufunsa ngati kasitomala akuvomereza kuti mudzatha kuwathandiza pa zosowa zawo.
Ngati akuvomereza, pitirizani kupindula. Ngati sagwirizana, zindikirani kuti mwangotsegula chotsutsa ndipo ndi nthawi yoyamba kugulitsa.
Zofuna Zazikulu ndi Zazikulu
Zotsutsa ndizo "zazikulu" kapena "zazing'ono". Mfundo zazikuluzikulu ndizopangitsa kuti anthu osagonjetsa, asakulepheretseni kutseka ntchitoyo kapena kupeza ntchitoyo. Zing'onozing'ono zotsutsa nthawi zambiri zikhulupiliro zomwe zimapangitsa kasitomala wanu kukayikira za inu, katundu wanu, ntchito yanu kapena kampani yanu.
Kusiyana pakati pa zikuluzikulu ndi zazing'ono kumaphatikizapo chidziwitso chosiyana ndi chidziwitso. Katswiri wodziŵa bwino ntchito angayang'ane zotsutsana ndi makasitomala pogwiritsa ntchito zomwe makasitomala ambiri amatsutsa. Ophunzira ochepa odziwa bwino adzafunika kudalira luso lawo lomvetsera ndi chidziwitso. Chidziwitso chimatanthauza "mphamvu yachisanu ndi chimodzi" yomwe imakuuzani pamene chinachake sichikuyenda bwino momwe mungakonde. Kukulitsa ubwino wanu kumakupatsani mphamvu yodziwira pamene kasitomala kapena abwana oyankhulana akugwirizana nanu kapena akufunsani chinachake. Ngakhale kuti palibe njira yowonjezereka, chidziwitso chingamangidwe mwa kuphunzira luso lofunsira mafunso, kuphunzira kuwerenga chilankhulo ndi kuphunzira momwe mungamvere .
Musamachitenso Ntchito Yabwino
Pamene kuli kofunikira kufotokozera kutsutsa, ndikofunika kwambiri kuti musamuthandize mthengi wanu kuganiza zambiri.
Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ngati munthu amene mukukumana naye akugwirizana ndi chilengezo chimene wapanga, pitirizani ndipo musabweretse zina zambiri.
Kwa "otsala a makasitomale", chofunika chanu chiyenera kukhala kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza chotsutsa momwe zingathere. Kawirikawiri, kutsutsa kwakukulu sikungokhala kagawo kakang'ono kotsutsana komwe kakagwirizanitsidwa palimodzi. Ndipo ngati simukudziwa chifukwa chotsutsa, palibe njira yowathyola. Kachiwiri, kufunsa mafunso n'kofunika kwambiri kuposa kuyankhula zambiri za mankhwala anu, utumiki kapena nokha.
Ngati mufunsapo mafunso okwanira chifukwa chake kasitomala anu akufuna chinachake, iwo amasonyeza zifukwa zawo ndipo angakuphunzitseni momwe mungagonjetsere, koma ngati simukufunsa mafunso, mukhoza kukhala mukulimbana ndi nkhondo.