Limbikitsani Luso Lanu Lomasulira
Kukanika kwake kumangopangitsa kuti banja lake lisamangokhalira kukambirana chifukwa iye sanalole kuti mkazi wake akambirane naye koma yekha.
Zinali mofulumira kwambiri panthawi yomwe adamufikitsa kukambirana kwenikweni.
Kufunikira kwake kupeŵa kukangana ndi kolimba kwambiri kuti ali ndi kuthetsa kwabwino m'malingaliro ake ndipo akuganiza kuti wathetsa vutoli. Monga momwe mungaganizire, izi sizigwira ntchito - makamaka kwa munthu wina wokhudzana nawo.
Kodi muli ndi mlandu wokhala ndi mikangano ndi maganizo ?
Anthu ambiri sasangalala pankhani ya kukangana . Ndikumvetsetsa kuti ndikukambirana ndi mutu wanu; kotero inu mukhoza kukonza zomwe inu mukufuna kunena ndi momwe inu mukufuna kuti muzinene izo. Nthawi zina zokambirana zimenezi ndi zokwanira kuthetsa vutoli, pamene mukuzindikira kuti mukuchita zambiri pokhapokha.
Ndikudziwa kuti ndakhala nthawi yayitali ndikugona usiku ndikukambirana ndi anthu omwe ndiwakwiya nawo ndipo ndikukhumudwa. Sikuti zokhazo zimasokoneza tulo, maganizo anu, ndi thanzi lanu, sizikuthandizani kuthetsa vutoli, ndipo zingathe kuwononga maubwenzi anu.
Musandiyese cholakwika, sindimakhulupirira kuti mukufunika kuthana ndi chilichonse. Ngati mukakambirana kamodzi pamutu mwanu musadandaule nazo. Ngati abwereranso ndipo mukhala nawo kachiwiri, mwinamwake muyambe kuganiza za kukambirana kwenikweni.
Pachitatu mwakumenyana kwanu kumutu , muyenera kuyamba kukonzekera momwe mungachitire ndi vuto lenileni chifukwa likuwoneka ngati mukufuna kuchita zimenezo.
Mmene Mungagwiritsire Ntchito Mgwirizano Weniweni, Wofunikira Kapena Wopikisana
Yambani pokonzekera nokha kuti mukathane ndi vuto lenileni. Mukhoza kufotokozera nkhaniyo pamaganizo amodzi (kapena awiri), osaganizira, omwe amawamasulira .
Mwachitsanzo, taganizirani kuti mukufuna kukambirana ndi mnzako kuti mutenge ngongole yonse chifukwa cha ntchito yomwe inu nonse mudachita palimodzi. M'malo moti, "Inu munatenga ngongole zonse, blah, blah, blah ..." ndikufotokozera kukhumudwa kwanu, zomwe munganene m'maganizo mwanu, kambiranani njira yanu pogwiritsira ntchito malangizo omwe ali pamwambawa.
Nenani mmalo mwake, "Zikuwoneka ngati sindinagwire nawo ntchito ya Johnson. Dzina langa silikuwonekera paliponse pa chikalatacho, ndipo sindinapereke ngongole kulikonse komwe ndingathe kuwona."
(Ndagwiritsira ntchito njira zowonjezereka zowunikira monga chilankhulo changa komanso mawu awa) Zindikirani kuti ndinapewa kugwiritsa ntchito mawu omwe ndikumva chifukwa ndizofotokozera zakukhosi, popanda umboni ndi zowona. Ndikumva kuti ndi kosavuta kwa mnzako akutsutsa.)
Pangani ndemanga yanu yoyamba ndikusiya kulankhula.
Pamene munthu yemwe mukukumana naye akuyankha, aloleni kuti ayankhe. Ndi chizoloŵezi chaumunthu, koma musapange kulakwitsa pa kuwonjezera pa mawu anu oyambirira, kuti musonyezeretsenso mawuwo.
Kuteteza chifukwa chimene mumamverera momwe mumachitira nthawi zambiri kumangokangana. Yankhulani zomwe mukufuna kunena (mkangano), ndiye ingomulola munthu wina kuti ayankhe.
Makamaka kuyambira mwinamwake mwakhala mukukambirana nkhaniyo mobwerezabwereza, mungaganize kuti mumadziwa momwe munthu wina angayankhire. Koma, ndi kulakwitsa kudumphira pa nthawiyi asanakhale ndi mwayi wakuyankha. Pewani kuyesedwa kuti muyankhule china chirichonse pa izi. Aloleni ayankhe.
Pewani kukangana pa nthawi yotsutsana.
Kusamvana sikukutanthauza nkhondo. Zimatanthauza kuti muyenera kunena zomwe mwanena. Mverani zomwe iwo akunena . Nthawi zambiri zimatha pomwepo.
Kodi mukuyenera kutsimikizira kuti wina ndi wabwino kapena wolakwika? Kodi wina akuyenera kuimbidwa mlandu? Pezani kukhumudwa kwanu pachifuwa chanu, ndipo pitirirani.
Onetsani kuthetsa kusamvana komwe mukufuna pamaso pa mkangano.
Ngati munauza mnzanuyo ndi mawu oyamba, "Mudatenga ngongole zonse, blah, blah, blah ..." yankho lake likhoza kukhala loteteza. Mwinamwake iye anganene chinachake monga, "Inde, wapatsidwa ngongole. Ndinauza mayina athu onse kwa bwana sabata yatha."
Ngati mukudziwa kale zomwe mukufuna mukumenyana , ndiye kuti mumasunthira zokambiranazo. Musayambe kukangana ngati adachita kapena sananene chilichonse kwa bwana sabata yatha - sikuti ndizovuta ndipo musalole kuti zikulepheretseni kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu.
Yankho lanu lingakhale, "Ndikuyamikira ngati mtsogolo timagwiritsa ntchito mayina athu pazinthu zonse, ndipo timaphatikizapo makalata onse okhudza polojekitiyi."
Ganizirani za vuto lenileni lakumenyana.
Winawo akhoza kuvomereza kapena kusagwirizana. Pitirizani kuyankha pa mfundoyi, ndipo pewani mayesero onse kuti mubweretse mkangano. Kambiranani , koma musamenyane.
Nkhaniyi ndikuti simuli kulandira ngongole, ndipo mukufuna dzina lanu pazolembedwazo. Ndichoncho. Sitikudzudzula, kuti ndi ndani yemwe ali wolondola kapena wolakwika kapena china chirichonse kupatula chisankho chomwe mukufuna.
Simudzayembekezera mwachidwi mikangano; simungathe kukhala omasuka bwino ndi, kapena odziwa kukangana. Komabe, nkofunika kuti muzinena chinachake mukakhumudwa komanso kukwiya. Ngati simungathe kudziyimira nokha, ndani?
Zambiri Zokhudzana ndi Kuthetsa Kusamvana ndi Kuthetsa Kusamvana
Kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza kukangana ndi mikangano, onani: