Pano pali momwe mungasankhire kuti musamve kuti amayi akulakwa
Nkhani yabwino ndi yakuti mayi akamachita manyazi amalephera kukupwetekani. Gwiritsani ntchito imodzi mwa mfundo zisanu ndi zitatu izi kuti muzimasula mayi anga ndikupitirizabe ndi moyo wanu!
Sankhani Ngati Mwachita Cholakwika
Mlandu wanu ukhoza kubweretsedwa chifukwa mwasankha chosayenera. Kodi mwana wanu akukufunani koma mutakhala ndi foni yofunika kwambiri pa chinthu choyamba, choncho m'malo mowapatsa mphindi zisanu, mwathamangira pakhomo. Ndiye, eya, ndiwe wolakwa pakuyika ntchito mwana wanu asanafike, koma ndiyitanidwe yanu ngati zomwe munachita zinali zolakwika. Nchiyani chomwe chinali chofunika kwambiri mu nthawi imeneyo? Kodi kuyitanidwa kwa bizinesi kunali kofunika kapena kodi mungakondeko kwa mphindi zingapo?
Kuthandiza kumasula amayi akudzimva kuganiza za ndege yosavuta mpweya mask. Tonsefe timapanga ana athu kukhala patsogolo koma padzakhala nthawi imene muyenera kudziyika nokha kapena ntchito yanu poyamba. Ndipo ndizo zabwino.
Pangani Cido Cakuda Credo
Pano pali njira yofulumira kumasula amayi amachimo chifukwa mudasiya mwana wanu kupita kuntchito. Yesetsani kupanga anti-mayi mayi credo chifukwa chogwira ntchito. Yambani kulingalira poyankha mafunso awa:
- Nchiyani chimakulimbikitsani kuti mudutse pabedi ndikupita ku ofesi tsiku lililonse?
- Kodi ntchito yanu yayikulu ndi yotani ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani dziko liyenera kudziwa za iwo?
- Kodi ndizomwe mumagwira ntchito?
- Nchifukwa chiyani munasankha kukhala mayi wogwira ntchito?
Kenaka, tengani mayankho ku mafunso awa ndi kunena, kapena credo, kuti mungadzidziwe nokha pamene mayi akudziimba mlandu.
Izi credo zidzakupatsani inu mphamvu kuti musunthe cholakwa ndikukutsimikizirani kuti mukusankha bwino . Ngati mukuvutika ndi kulembera mwinamwake pali chizindikiro chochenjeza chomwe mwaphonya. Bwererani ku tsamba loyamba lothandizira.
Pezani Malo Ena Kuchokera kwa Anthu Amene Amakuchititsani Kudzimvera
Kodi wina anena chinachake chimene chinakupangitsani kumva kuti amayi akulakwa? Ikani malire anu omwe amati mudzasunga kutali ndi munthu ameneyo kapena simudzabweretsa nkhani iliyonse yomwe inakuchititsani kulakwitsa. Achibale akhoza kukhala ovuta. Ngati apongozi anu akupereka ndemanga zokhudzana ndi ntchito yanu, pezani chifukwa chochokeramo. Izi ndi bwino kuposa kugwa mphanda kupyolera mu dzanja lake.
Ganizirani Maganizo a Munthu Wina
Mukakumana maso ndi amayi ogwira ntchito , yesetsani kukumbukira kuti amalankhula kuchokera pazokha zomwe zimachokera pazochitikira zawo. Dzifunseni nokha "Kodi ndemanga yawo ikuchokera kuti? Zomwe zachitika mmoyo wawo zomwe zingawachititse iwo kukhulupirira kuti ndi zolondola?"
Muyenera kuwona ndemanga potsata zosankha zomwe apanga banja lawo. Kodi mayi amene adalongosola zimenezi adagwira ntchito yake kuti azikhala ndi ana? Kodi anaphonya kugwira ntchito kapena kudana ndi kudalira mwamuna wake ndi ndalama?
Ndiye mwinamwake iye ayenera kukhulupirira momwe iye amawonekera ndi zolondola kuti iye akhoze kukhala ndi tradeoffs omwe iye avomereza.
Tengani Tsiku Lokha Ndi Kupatula Nthawi Ndi Mwana Wanu
Pofuna kudzikuza mayi, dzipatseni mpumulo ndipo mutenge tsiku limodzi kuti mukakhale ndi mwana wanu. Mudzagwirizananso ndi mwana wanu tsiku ndi tsiku nyimbo, chilakolako, ndi umunthu. Nazi malingaliro omwe angapange tsiku lanu kukhala lapadera.
Ngati mwana wanu ali wamng'ono, mungathe kuchita zinthu zomwe sizikuyeneranso sabata sabata ngati kuwapatsa malo osambira ndi kuyesa thupi lawo lachinyama chilichonse kapena kuyang'ana komwe amadziwa bwino magalimoto. Ngati mwana wanu ndi wamkulu, asiyeni iwo asankhe mapulani, kaya ndi misika, kukwera njinga, kapena masewera ndi iwe. Pa nthawi yopuma mumatenga nthawi kuti muganizire za moyo wanu monga mayi wothandizira (kodi mudapanga amayi anu odana ndi amayi achikhulupiriro?).
Tenga zolemba zanu ndi kuyamba kulemba, amayi!
Ngati simungathe kutenga tsiku la tchuthi, sankhani mwana wanu mofulumira kwa maola ochepa chabe. Kapena, tilankhulani tsiku lina la sabata pena paliponse ndikuligwiritsa ntchito kukhala mayi okha. Ngati nthawi yanu ndi yolimba, nthawi yotsatira mukakhala kunyumba ndi mwana wodwala, yesetsani kuchigwira ngati nthawi yogwirizana, mmalo mwa marathon a TV ndi Jell-o.
Dzikumbutseni Kuti Tonse Tili ndi Mavuto Athu
Pamene mukukumana ndi mkangano wa banja-ntchito, ndi zophweka kukondweretsa moyo umene mungakhale nawo ngati mayi wokhala pakhomo. Mukuganiza kuti mukuvina kudera lamapiri ndi ana anu, ndikuwombera zofunikira zonse ndikumanga ma IQ ku msinkhu waumunthu kupyolera muzinthu zomwe zikulimbikitsidwa ndi chitukuko cha msinkhu wa PhDs.
Chowonadi n'chakuti makolo omwe amakhala pakhomo amakhala ndi nkhawa zambiri monga makolo ogwira ntchito, kapena ayi, malingana ndi msinkhu, chikhalidwe, ndi chiwerengero cha ana. ya khofi pa desiki. Ukadakhala panyumba nthawi zonse, ukhoza kusamba padera.
Vomerezani Kuti Musasokonezeke pa Zinthu
Ndi mfundo yeniyeni ya sayansi yomwe amai sakugwira ntchito tsiku lililonse la ana ake. Ndibwino kuti mukhale wokhumudwa chifukwa chosowa nthawi yosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa. Ngati mumadzimvera chisoni chifukwa cha ntchito yanu, zingakhale zosavuta kuti muzisangalala ndi zomwe mukupeza. Silikugwiritsanso ntchito ngati onyenga.
Kukuthandizani kuti mugonjetse mayi wamtundu uwu wofunsira funsani wothandizira wanu wamasitomala ngati angagwiritse ntchito pulogalamu kuti akugwirizanitse masana. Idzakuthandizani kuti muzitha kudutsa nthawi zolakwika ngati mutha kuona chithunzi kapena kanema wa mwana wanu akusangalala kusukulu.
Dziwani Kuti Ichi Sichidzatha Kosatha
Moyo umasintha mofulumira. Zosankha zomwe munapanga pa ntchito zingawoneke ngati zidzakhala kosatha koma sizidzatha. Ana anu adzasintha! Angathe kuimitsa anthu omwe amalira kwambiri ndipo m'malo mwake athawe popanda kukupatsani lingaliro lachiwiri. Muleka kumangokhalira kukumbukira chifukwa mudzayamba kugona usiku wonse muzaka zingapo. Potsiriza mukhoza kukumbukira malonjezo ambiri omwe mumapatsa ana anu.
Mukamadzimangiriza ndikukumbutseni kuti zinthu sizidzatha. Musanadziwe kuti mwana wanu adzakhala kusukulu ya pulayimale, kupanga mabwenzi angakhale kosatha. Mungapeze ntchito yosiyana ndi maola osinthasintha kotero kuti mutha kukhala pakhomo. Ndani amadziwa zomwe zidzachitike mawa? Khalani ndi chiyembekezo kuti zinthu zidzasintha ndikuyembekeza kuti zikhale bwino.
Yosinthidwa ndi Elizabeth McGrory.