Nazi zochepa zomwe mungafune kuziganizira ndi kuwonjezera pa zida zanu.
Chotsatira cha Pangano
Chotsatira ichi ndi chosiyana kwambiri chifukwa mumagwiritsa ntchito poyambira. Yankhulani chonchi musanayambe kukamba kwanu:
"Kotero ife tiri omveka, ine sindiri kuno kuti ndikugulitseni inu chirichonse lero. Cholinga changa ndi kukuwonetsani zomwe mankhwalawa angakuchitireni komanso chifukwa chake makasitomala ambiri amakukonda. Zonse zomwe ndikufunsako ndikuti mupitirize kuganiza mozama pamene ndimapitirira, ndikuganiza ngati mankhwalawa angakhale yankho labwino kwa inu. Ndiye, titatha kukambirana, mutha kundiuza zomwe mwasankha. Kodi zimenezi zikumveka mwachilungamo? "
Ndikutcha kuti mgwirizanowu watsekedwa chifukwa mukupanga mgwirizanowo ndi chiyembekezo chanu kuti mudzapereka zambiri za mankhwala anu ndipo adzamvetsera ndi maganizo omasuka. Mukamaliza kuyankhula kwanu, zonse muyenera kuchita ndi kufunsa, "Kodi ndibwino kuti mukhale oyenera?
Zovuta za Anzanu Zatsala
Izi zimagwira bwino ntchito zomwe zimafuna "kuziganizira," - mwachitsanzo, kuchotsani mu nyumbayo kuti athe kuiwala zonse za mankhwala anu. Pamene chiyembekezo chikuyesera kukugwetsani, nenani chinachake monga:
"Ndikumvetsetsa nkhawa zanu-mukufuna kuti mupeze njira yabwino kwambiri. Chinthuchi chiri, m'zaka [x] ndakhala ndikugulitsa mankhwalawa, pafupifupi makasitomala anga onse avomereza kuti ndithudi ndife opindulitsa kwambiri. Ndipotu, anthu omwe ankagula zinthu zambiri amadandaula chifukwa chodula maola ndi maola angapo ngati akanakhala akusangalala ndi mankhwalawa kuyambira pachiyambi. Izo ziri kwa inu, ndithudi, koma ine ndikanakonda kuti ndikupulumutseni inu nthawi ina mwa kuyika dongosolo lanu tsopano mmalo mwake. "
Momwemo, mubweretse umboni wina wolembedwa kuchokera kwa makasitomala omwe alipo. Mwanjira imeneyi mukhoza kupereka zitsanzo monga, "Amayi Jones anakhazikitsa chitsanzo chomwecho chomwe mukuganiza pogwiritsa ntchito mtengo wogulitsa ena atatu. "
The-All-Else-Ikulephera Kwambiri
Ngati kasitomala akukhala kunja sakufuna kugula mankhwala anu ndipo kuyesera kwanu poyankha kutsutsa sikumupangitse kuti ayambe kumuyesa, yesetsani kunena chinthu chonga ichi:
"Ndikuwopa kuti sindinapange ntchito yabwino lero poimira chida changa chifukwa ndikukhulupirira kuti zikhoza kuthetsa vuto lanu [perekani makasitomala vuto pano, makamaka chinachake chomwe atchulidwa]. Kodi mungandiuze momwe ndikulepheretsani lero, kapena ndizinthu ziti zomwe sindinathe kuzilemba? Ndikuyamikira ndikudziwa kuti sindikupanganso molakwika. "
Chotsatirachi chimakwaniritsa zinthu ziwiri: Choyamba, zimakuthandizani kuzindikira zofooka zanu zomwe zikulepheretsa kugulitsa, ndipo chachiwiri, zimakupatsani mpata wotsiriza kuti mutsegule ndikutsutsa malingaliro awo.