Zomwe zimayembekezereka sizibwera konse ndipo zimati, "Chabwino, ndikufuna kugula mankhwalawa pakalipano." Ziribe kanthu momwe aliri chidwi, iwo adzakulolani kukulolani kutuluka pakhomo pokhapokha mukapempha kugulitsa. Koma kupempha wina kugula kuchokera kwa inu m'mawu ambiri kungakhale chowopsya choopsa, makamaka kwa wina yemwe ali watsopano ku malonda. Chizoloŵezi chogonjetsa manthawa ndikutsegula pansi ndikuchimvetsa.
Kuopa Kufunsa Zogulitsa? Kugonjetsa Kuopa Kwambiri Zovuta
Chifukwa chimodzi chodziwika chotsekera mantha ndicho vuto la lingaliro. Ogulitsa amantha kuti angawoneke ngati achiwawa, adyera, kapena osiyana. Amalonda ambiri sakonda kutsekedwa okha ndikuopa kuti chiyembekezo chawo chidzakhala ndi maganizo ofanana. Inde, mutha kukakumana nawo nthawi zambiri (kawirikawiri munthu amene wakhala akugulitsa kapena akudziwa malonda ogulitsa) omwe angabwerere mukapempha kugulitsa. Koma chiyembekezo chimenechi ndi chosowa kwambiri, ndipo ngati akudziŵa bwino malonda awo amadziwa bwino kuti mukungoyamba ntchito yanu.
Sikoyenera kukhala wamwano kapena wamwano kuti mutseke winawake. Ngati mwachita ntchito yabwino pamsonkhano wonsewo, kutseka kumatsatira mwachibadwa ndipo kudzawoneka ngati sitepe yotsatira. Momwemo, panthawi yomwe mwakambitsirana, mutha kukonda chidwi chake ndikuyankhira pazitsutso zomwe ali nazo.
Ngati malingalirowo atsimikiziridwa kale, kupempha kuti kugulitsa kungakhale kosavuta kunena, "Chabwino, tiyeni tiyambe kulembetsa mapepala."
Kugonjetsa Kuopa Kupanga Chinyengo
Chiwopsezo china chofala, makamaka pakati pa ogulitsa atsopano, ndikuopa kulakwitsa. Kutseka kumakhala kovuta kwambiri poyamba, ndipo ogulitsa atsopano nthawi zambiri sakudziwa ndendende momwe angayambe kutseka kapena kuti liti.
Kotero iwo amakonda kukazengereza ndi kukayikira mpaka iwo akuganiza kuti ndi mochedwa kwambiri palimodzi ndipo amangoperewera pa izo palimodzi.
Njira yabwino yodzimvera bwino ndi njira yotsekemera ndikuchita. Mungathe kuwombera malonda pang'ono, koma ngati simukuyesera kufunsa malonda mutsala pang'ono kutaya mwayi umenewu. Poyesa, mudzadziyendetsa pafupi kuti mukhale wachilengedwe pafupi. Ndipo ngakhale ngati 'kuyandikira pafupi' kuli kovuta, pali mwayi wabwino kuti mutenge malonda amenewo! Zovuta ndizo, mumamva bwino kwambiri kuposa momwe mumadzichitira nokha.
Kugonjetsa Kuopa Kukana
Pomalizira, ogulitsa samapempha kugulitsa chifukwa akuwopa kuti asayambe. Kuwopa kukanidwa ndi chinthu chokhumudwitsa chachikulu kwa wogulitsa aliyense ndipo ndi chinthu chimene iwe uyenera kugonjetsa ngati mukufuna kupambana pa malonda. Kutembenuka ndi gawo losapeŵeka la malonda. Chofunika kukumbukira ndi chakuti pamene chiyembekezo chikusiya kugula kuchokera kwa inu, si kukana kwanu. Zoyembekeza zisankha kugula pa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana, zomwe zambiri sizikukhudzana ndi inu.
Njira yabwino yopezera mantha ndi kukanidwa ndikugwiritsira mano mano ndikukumana nawo.
Mofanana ndi mantha onse, mutayang'anapo nthawi zingapo ziyamba kutaya mphamvu zake pa inu. Patapita kanthawi, 'nos' zomwe mukumva zidzawoneka zosafunikira - makamaka mukangoyamba 'inde' mmalo mwake ndi kuzindikira momwe zimakhalira zabwino! Pamene mukukonzekera kuti mufunse kugulitsa ndikuyamba kumva kuti zokwawazo zikukumbutseni, dzikumbutseni kuti kumverera koteroko ndi kanthawi kochepa ndipo pamene mutseka kwambiri, mofulumira idzatha.