Kusamalira amayi ndikovuta ngakhale zitakonzedwa bwanji
Pitfall 1: Kuyembekezera Line Up Child Care
Pamene ndinali ndi pakati ndi mwana wanga woyamba, ndinapatsidwa uphungu wosafunsidwa pa chirichonse kuchokera pa zomwe ndikudya ndi zomwe ndingagule. Koma palibe wina anandiuza zambiri zothandiza - kuti ndiyambe ndandanda ya malo osungirako zosowa.
Panthawi yomwe ndimapita ku malowa mwezi umodzi ndisanafike, ndinazindikira kuti nthawi yodikira kuti mwana asamalire anaposa chaka chimodzi! Ndinachita mantha, ndinalemba zolemba khumi ndi ziwiri ndikuyamba kupemphera. Mwamwayi ndinatha kutenga maulendo asanu ndi limodzi, ndipo chisamaliro chathu chamasewera chapamwamba chinatipeza malo.
Ngakhale simukuganiza kuti mukusowa zosowa zamasana, lembani apobe. Mwinanso muyenera kubwerera kuntchito mwamsanga kusiyana ndi momwe mukuyembekezera, kapena amayi anu kapena nanny adzatuluka mwadzidzidzi posamalira mwana wanu. Ngati mwakhazikitsa maziko pasanapite nthawi, zidzakhala zosavuta kupeza nthawi yothandizira.
Pitfall 2: Kukhala Wosasamala Za Kusamalira Ana
Mukadakhala pazinthu zamasana ndikudikira mndandanda kapena mutayikapo pakhomo, musawononge ntchito yanu payekha ndikuyiwala. Mutengapo mbali yoyamba mu ubale watsopano wofunika kwambiri wa moyo wa amayi, ndipo muyenera kuyesetsa.
Malo osungirako zosamalira anthu akuyendetsedwa ndi anthu, ndipo mwachiwonekere ogwilitsa ana ndi anthu.
Iwo akufuna kudziwa kuti mudzakhala omasuka kugwira nawo ntchito, ndipo mudzayamikira ntchito yofunika yomwe iwo akuchita.
Onetsetsani kuti muyang'ane ndi malo osungirako masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena abwenzi omwe mwakhala nawo. Itanani mwanayo atabadwa, ndipo nthawi ndi nthawi pa nthawi yoberekera. Ndine wotsimikiza kuti inali maitanidwe angawadzidzidzi pamwezi wathu wamasukulu omwe adatipatsa malo patsogolo pa nthawi.
Ndinkafuna kusonyeza chidwi kwambiri popanda kugwedeza.
Ngati muli omangidwa, kudziwonetsera nokha ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yowonjezera mwana. Othandizira amakonda kusonkhana, makolo okondweretsedwa. Ndikudziwa amayi awiri atsopano omwe adayendetsa mwana wawo pakati pa sabata asanabwerere kuntchito ndikuyenda ndi malo.
Pitfall 3: Kubwerera ku Steam
Kaya kuchoka kwa amayi akuyamana ndi masabata asanu ndi limodzi, miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, kapena zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi, kubwerera kuntchito kudzasintha .
Ngati n'kotheka, bwererani pakati pa sabata. Mumalandira sabata yoyamba kubwerera kuntchito, ndipo mwana wanu amapeza zovuta zosavuta kusamalira ana. Mwinanso mutha kufufuza kubwereranso panthawi yamagulu a masabata angapo kapena miyezi ingapo yoyambirira.
Ena amavutika kuti azilankhulana ndi ntchito pa nthawi ya amayi oyembekezera kuti athandize nthumwi kugwira ntchito ndikupitiriza ntchito. Mwanjira imeneyo iwo samabwerera ku mulu wa ntchito zopanda ntchito.
Ena amangofuna kupuma bwino ndikubwerera kuntchito yatsopano - kapena ngakhale malo atsopano. Njira iyi imagwira ntchito bwino ngati ntchito yanu yodziimira, ndipo mukhoza kukonza mapulojekiti musanayambe ulendo wanu wamayi ndi kuyambitsa zatsopano mukamabwerera.
Pitfall 4: Kupita Icho Chokha
Mukufuna kupambana monga amayi. Mukufuna kumva kuti mukukhoza.
Mungathe kukwaniritsa zolinga zonsezi mwa kupempha thandizo .
Muli ndi mwayi wokhala osangalala ngati amayi akugwira ntchito ngati mukuvomereza kuti muli ndi zosowa ndipo mukufuna thandizo. Kuyesera kuti mupite nokha kumangokukankhira inu pamphepete mwa kutopa ndi kukhumudwa.
Landirani chithandizo kuchokera kwa anzanu kapena achibale, kaya ndi maola ochepa chabe a kubata kapena casserole yomwe imakupulumutsani inu kukonzekera chakudya usiku wina. Ndipo ngati mukulera mwana wanu ndi mnzanu, onetsetsani kuti ndi mgwirizano weniweni, kumene mumapereka ndikuthandizani.
Mukabwerera kuntchito yanu, funani amayi ena kuntchito kwanu. Iwo akhoza kukupatsani inu chidziwitso chofunikira, kuchokera pa mapepala omwe inu mukufunikira omwe mameneja amapezera nkhani za mwana. Amayi a ana akuluakulu angakulimbikitseni kuti ana amapindula ngakhale atakhala osamalira ana.
Pitfall 5: Kuyerekezera Mwana Wanu Wosautsika
Mumanena zabwino, mutseka chitseko, ndipo mubwerere kukagwira ntchito.
Kuyambira nthawi imeneyo, simukudziwa zomwe mwana wanu akuganiza kapena kuchita tsiku lonse.
Musachite cholakwika chomuganizira kuti akulira akuona amayi akusowa. Nthaŵi zambiri imangokhala mphindi yoyamba, mpaka chidole kapena wokhala naye akuwonekera.
Amayi ena amadzibisa kunja kwa chitseko chotseka mpaka kupatukana kumachepetsa. Kapena alowetsani pamene tsiku la ntchito lapita, kugwira ana akusewera, kuvina nyimbo, kapena kukondwera ndi buku.
Funsani wosamalira mwana wanu kuti azitenga zithunzi patsikuli kuti muwone zomwe akuchita kapena akusangalala. Onetsetsani pa desiki yanu kuti muone ngati nthawi yanu yambiri imasintha.
Ndi ana achikulire, muzilemba ma pulogalamu. Mukhoza kupeza zambiri kuchokera pamsewu kunyumba kwanu kuchokera ku sukulu kusiyana ndi theka la ora musadye chakudya chamadzulo.
Pitfall 6: Kupepesa
Muli ndi zokwanira m'malingaliro anu popanda kudandaula za zomwe anthu ena amaganiza za inu. Musasokoneze kupepesa kwa dona yemwe ali mu golosale yemwe amadandaula pa combo ya suti ndi stroller.
Mudzasowa chisoni chanu mukamudzutsa mwamuna wanu pa 2 am kuti mukatenge mwanayo, koma zikuwoneka kuti akugona bwino ndipo kulira kwake kumangokhala maloto anu.
Pitfall 7: Sindiyembekezera Mapu
Sabata yoyamba idapita bwino. Mukukonda kubwerera ku ntchito yosangalatsa m'dziko lachikulire. Ndiyeno mwana wanu amamuwotcha koyamba ndipo sangagone usiku wonse usanayambe kukumana kwanu.
Khazikani mtima pansi. Amayi adati padzakhala masiku onga awa. Mudzadutsamo, ndipo nthawi yotsatira mudzadziwa kuti kugona kwanu kumakhala kosasamala ngati mutamva matenda.
Mungathe kuika thumba ladzidzidzi m'galimoto yanu ndi zovala zoyera kwa amayi ndi amayi, zosakaniza, kapena ngakhale chidole chatsopano. Mutha kukhala mumsewu woipa ndi mwana wofuula, kapena muyenera kuthamanga mzere musanabwerere kunyumba.
Pitfall 8: Kumamatira Mfuti Zanu Mwadala
Amayi ambiri ogwira ntchito amagwiritsidwa ntchito kupanga ndondomeko ndikupitiliza patsogolo mpaka idzapambana. Moyo ndi mwana siwowonjezereka kwambiri.
Dzipatse chilolezo kuti musinthe ndondomeko yanu, kaya ndi nthawi yanu ya ntchito kapena chisamaliro cha ana. Mvetserani kumatumbo anu. Ngati chinachake sichiri kukuthandizani inu kapena banja lanu, musinthe.
Yosinthidwa ndi Elizabeth McGrory