Kuthamangitsidwa ndi Wogwira Ntchito Pansi
Otsutsidwa ndi Wotsogoleredwa
"Pafupifupi chaka chapitacho, dipatimenti imene ndinagwira ntchito inachotsedwa.
Owerengeka omwe tinatsala tinatumizidwa ku gulu lina. Woyang'anira wanga ali ndi udindo wapamwamba koma adapeza kuti ali ndi antchito aang'ono kwambiri kuti amvetsetse. Chifukwa chake, adafuna kupeza mapulogalamu m'madipatimenti ena kuti apulumuke. Dipatimenti ina inamupatsa wantchito wotchedwa 'mphatso' chifukwa madokotala amasangalala kuwapatsa. Mbuye wanga ankadziwa mbiri yoipa ya wogwira ntchito yomwe anali kupeza - chifukwa anali ndi zaka zopitirira 30+ zopanda mphamvu ndipo amapita ku tchalitchi chomwecho - ndipo ankafuna kugwirizana kwambiri ndi kupeza kwake kwatsopano. Kotero, iye anandipatsa 'mphatso' iyi kwa ine.
"Chaka chatha, wogonjetsa uyu wakana kugwira ntchito iliyonse. Poyambirira, adanena kuti adagonjetsedwa ndi oyang'anira oyipa chifukwa cha zaka 32 zapitazo. Anamupangira chiwembu, posakhalitsa, anandifunsa kuti asandichitire ntchito, chifukwa adanena kuti sanafunikire, kapena sindinamufunse mwachidwi, kapena sanamvetse pempho langa, kapena woyang'anira wakale anamuchitira ntchito yake, kapena 'inali pamwamba pa kalasi yake yolipira .' Woyang'anira wanga ananena kuti mavuto onsewa anali chabe mkangano waumwini pakati pathu ndi ineyo.
"Kwa iye wokwiya kwambiri , wogonjetsa angadzipangire yekha mafuta opunduka ndi osowa ndi kuyimirira pa ine pamene ndimakhala mu cubicle yanga. Amandilankhula kokha pamene akudya ndi pakamwa pake atseguka ndipo zakudya zimatuluka ndikupanga zonyansa kuchokera kumtima kwake kosatha Kuwonjezera apo, iye amapemphera mofuula kwa iyemwini, kufalitsa radio ya evangelical za kulapa ndi kukambirana momveka bwino za anthu omwe amapita ku gehena chifukwa cha momwe amachitira naye.
Pamene anthu ena anandiyendera pa zosowa zokhudzana ndi ntchito, amatha kuchotsa nsapato zake ndikupukuta mapazi ake ndi mafuta onunkhira akuyesera kuti alowe nawo.
"Pomalizira pake, nditakambirana momenyana ndikumenyana naye, pamene ndinamuuza zambiri zomwe zimamukwiyitsa komanso zochititsa manyazi, komanso kuti amadzimvera, sindinamuyang'ane kapena kumuuza. Ndinamuuza kuti asiye kuwononga nthawi ndi zida zake. ine ndikugwira ntchito yake. Iye anandifunsa ine, 'Ndani wakukhumudwitsani kwambiri kuti iwe undichitire ine chonchi?' Ndinamuuza kuti sindinagwire ntchito mwa ine ndekha kapena ntchito yanga kuti ndikhale ndi munthu ngati iye komanso kuti ndichite ntchito yake. Anandisiya kuti apulumuke ndipo ndinati, 'Musapemphe maganizo anga ozama ndikunyalanyaza ine ngati mungathe Tavomereza kuti ndiwe vuto. ' Ogwira nawo ntchito anamva mawu anga ndi mawu okwiya ndipo anawopsya pamagwirizano.
"Ndinadandaula kwa bwana wanga yemwe adalenga zonsezi. Ndinalemba zochitika zambiri zosasamala, khalidwe losachita ntchito, komanso ntchito yosayenera, koma woyang'anira wanga adayimba malonda anga chifukwa anali ndi vuto lovuta ndipo anandiuza kuti ndigule mpweya woyera. kuti palibe wina yemwe adadandaula za fungo la pansi, phokoso ndi mapepala ndi kuponyera pazing'ono zamkati zopanda kanthu, ngakhale kuti wogwira ntchito ndi OCD ndi mantha a majeremusi amagwira ntchito makilomita awiri kutali.
Anati tifunika kuthetsa kusamvana kwathu pakati pathu, koma anakana kubwezeretsa pansi kapena kuyankha pempho langa kuti ndizitsutsa.
"Panthawi zina, munthu wondipemphayo angandifunse kuti ndikhale kumbuyo pamisonkhano (ngakhale atandiuza) kuti andilankhule ndi kundidzudzula kumutu wathu wagawenga. Anati ndinamuzunza chifukwa sindinathe kulankhula naye popanda kulira ndi Ndinakwiya kwambiri ndipo ankandiimba kuti ndine munthu wosautsika, osadziwika ndi kukhalapo kwake. Ndinadzilimbitsa ndekha ndikuzindikiritsa zolephera zake zambiri ndikuchita kuti azimusiya kuchokera pansi panga. Anagwira naye ntchito kale (ndipo adachenjeza mwamphamvu mkulu wathu kuti asamulandire) ndipo anamudziwa kuti akudziwa bwino.
Ndipotu, amamvetsetsa chifukwa chake woyang'anira nthawi zambiri ankatumizidwa ku makanda olekanitsa kutali ndi gawo lililonse lomwe anapatsidwa.
"Kwa zaka zonsezi, ndakhala ndikuvutika maganizo komanso mwakuthupi. Ndinapindula makilogalamu makumi asanu ndi atatu ndikuvutika kuti ndikhale pansi ndikunyansidwa ndi kusewera ndikugwira ntchito ndi chiphaso chotetezedwa ndi boma . Ndalira kuntchito ndikulira kwa Woyang'anira (yemwe amandiseka komanso kundiuza kuti phindu langa ndilokha), ndipo usiku ndimakwiya chifukwa ndimakakamizika kugwira ntchito mochedwa kuti ndibwererenso ntchito yachangu chifukwa woyang'anira wanga amandiyankha.
"Amene ali pansi pano akupitirizabe kundiopseza kuti andibweretsere mlandu ndikundineneza kuti sindikukondedwa (ngakhale kuti ndachita bwino) ndikafunsa mafunso ake ovuta ponena za ntchito yake yolembedwa. kuti ndiimitse wothandizana nane ndi ine.
"Choncho, ndalangiza wogonjera kuti azilankhulana nane kudzera pa e-mail kuti adziteteze ku nkhanza zomwe amandimva nazo kuti ndikhale ndi zolemba zondizunza ine. Ndimagwiritsanso ntchito mauthenga awa pamene Pambuyo pake, amakana kunena chilichonse chimene sichifukwa chomveka chimene amatsutsa chifukwa chokana kugwira ntchito yake. Chifukwa chakuti ndanena kuti ayenera kunditumizira ine yekha, amandikwiyitsa mtima ndikumuuza kuti, "Kodi aliyense anamva momwe amalankhulira kwa ine? "
"Kuyambira chaka chino, adangokakamiza bwanamkubwa wanga kuti abwerere 'tsiku liri lonse tsopano.' Amanena izi pambuyo pakumenyana kwake koopsa ndi ine nditatha kulembera za kuba kwake kwa nthawi kapena kusagwirizana kapena kusagonjetsa. Malonjezo ake onyenga amagula bwino miyezi itatu yowonjezera, chifukwa woyang'anira wanga akundiuza kuti akuchoka tsiku lirilonse tsopano asanamvere mapepala ake opuma pantchito, choncho ndikupitirizabe kumufuna kuti achoke kapena achoke. "