Njira zisanu Zokuthandizani Kuthetsa Kusamvana Kuntchito

Amayi ambiri amatsogoleredwa pamene akukumana ndi mkangano kuntchito. Ndiko kulakwitsa, chifukwa pali mitundu yonse yathanzi komanso yosagwirizana ndi mkangano ndipo zonsezi ndizofunikira.

Mikangano yathanzi imayang'ana pa ntchito kapena ntchito zokhudzana ndi ntchito ndipo ikhoza kuyendetsedwa ndikupangidwira kuti ipindule. Nkhondo yopanda phindu - mtundu womwe umakhala waumwini, uyenera kuzimitsidwa mwamsanga kapena umasokoneza molakwika kuntchito.

Kumvetsetsa Zithunzi Zisanu Zosamalirana:

Ntchito ya kafukufuku ya Kenneth Thomas ndi Ralph Kilmann m'ma 1970 inachititsa kuti adziwe njira zisanu zakumenyana ndi kupititsa patsogolo kugwiritsidwa ntchito kotchedwa Thomas Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, kapena TKI.

Ntchito yawo inatiuza kuti tonse tikhale ndi njira yapadera, yodzisankhira kuthetsa mikangano , yomwe imatithandiza bwino nthawi zina, koma osati onse. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuti tipeze bwino ndi kukhazikitsa njira zogwiritsira ntchito bwino ndikugwiritsa ntchito zomwe zikugwirizana kwambiri ndi vutoli.

Pamene mumatha kukhala omasuka ndi njira iliyonse yothetsera mikangano, mumakhala ogwira mtima kwambiri.

Kuthandizana

Ndi njira yogwirizanirana , mumagwira ntchito ndi munthuyo kuti mupange njira yothetsera kupambana. Mwa njirayi, cholinga chake ndicho kupeza njira yopambana-kupambana yomwe ikukhudzana ndi zosowa za aliyense.

Ndondomekoyi ndi yoyenera pamene:

• Zinthu sizili mwachangu

• Chofunika chofunikira chiyenera kupangidwa
• Nkhondoyo ikuphatikizapo anthu ambiri kapena anthu osiyanasiyana magulu osiyanasiyana
• Kuyesa kusamvana kwa nkhondo kumbuyo kwalephera

Ndemanga iyi si yoyenera pamene:

• Chisankho chiyenera kuchitidwa mwamsanga
• Nkhaniyi ndi yaing'ono kwa onse okhudzidwa

Kupikisana

Pokhala ndi mpikisano, munthu amene akutsutsana amatha kuima molimba.

Amapikisana ndi munthu wina kuti awapatse mphamvu, ndipo amatha kupambana (pokhapokha ngati akutsutsana ndi wina amene akukhamukira). Ndondomekoyi imawoneka ngati yamwano, ndipo nthawi zambiri imakhala chifukwa cha anthu ena mukumenyana kumverera kupindula.

Ndondomekoyi ndi yoyenera pamene:

• Chisankho chiyenera kupangidwa mofulumira (mwachitsanzo, zozizwitsa)
• Chisankho chosakondeka chiyenera kupangidwa
• Winawake akuyesera kuti apindule ndi vuto

Ndemanga iyi si yoyenera pamene:

• Anthu akumva bwino za nkhondoyo
• Zinthu sizili mwachangu
• Kugula-mkati n'kofunika

Kugonjetsa

Ndi njira yowonongeka, munthu aliyense mukumenyana amapereka chinachake chomwe chimapangitsa kuti kuthetsa kusamvana.

Ndondomekoyi ndi yoyenera pamene:

• Chisankho chiyenera kuchitidwa mofulumira osati mtsogolo (kutanthauza kuti zinthuzo ndi zofunika koma osati mofulumira)
• Kuthetsa mkangano n'kofunika kwambiri kuposa kukhala ndi "aliyense" wopambana.
• Mphamvu pakati pa anthu mu mkangano ndi ofanana

Ndemanga iyi si yoyenera pamene:

• Zosowa zofunikira zosiyanasiyana ziyenera kukumana
• Zinthu ndizofunika kwambiri
• Munthu mmodzi ali ndi mphamvu zambiri kuposa wina

Kukhalamo

Ndondomeko yokhalamo ndi imodzi mwa njira zothetsera mikangano zosagwirizana kwambiri. Ndi kalembedwe kameneka, mmodzi wa anthu amasiya zomwe akufuna kuti munthu wina akhale ndi zomwe akufuna.

Kawirikawiri, kalembedwe kameneka sikakhala kogwira mtima, koma ndi koyenera pazochitika zina.

Ndondomekoyi ndi yoyenera pamene:

• Kusunga ubale ndikofunika koposa kupambana
• Nkhani yomwe ili pafupi ndi yofunika kwambiri kwa munthu wina koma yosafunika kwa inu

Ndemanga iyi si yoyenera pamene:

• Nkhaniyi ndi yofunikira kwa inu
• Kukhazikitsa sikungathetseratu vutoli

Kupewa

Njira yomaliza ndiyo kupeŵa mkangano kwathunthu. Anthu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito kalembedwe amavomereza kuvomereza zosankha popanda kukayikira, pewani kukangana, ndikugawana zosankha zovuta komanso ntchito. Kupewa ndi njira ina yomwe imakhala yosagwira ntchito, koma imakhala nayo ntchito.

Ndondomekoyi ndi yoyenera pamene:

• Nkhaniyi ndi yopanda phindu
• Nkhondoyo idzadzisintha yokha mwamsanga

Ndemanga iyi si yoyenera pamene:

• Nkhaniyi ndi yofunikira kwa inu kapena omwe ali pafupi ndi inu (monga timu yanu)
• Nkhondoyo idzapitirira kapena kuipiraipira popanda kusamala

Mfundo Yofunika Kwambiri

Palibe njira imodzi "yoyenera" kapena "yolakwika" - iliyonse ili ndi nthawi ndi malo ake. Phunzirani nthawi komanso momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito zisanu zonsezi, ndipo mudzakhala ogwira mtima koposa nthawi zonse kudalira pazomwe mungasankhe. Monga manejala, phunzirani kupereka njira zosiyanasiyana zochokera pazithunzi zisanu pamene mukuyesetsa kuthetsa mkangano pa timu yanu.