Mumangoyika Zapamtima Panu M'kamwa Mwanu ndi Kukhumudwitsa Wogwira Naye Ntchito

Mmene Mungasamalire Ubale Wanu ndi Wokondedwa Wanu

Kodi sizingakhale zabwino ngati mutatha kubwezeretsa zomwe munanena mutangozindikira kuti wina wamukhumudwitsa? Tangoganizani ngati mutakhala ndi chinachake monga botani lofufuta pa makina a makompyuta koma mmalo mochotsa mawu omwe mwasindikiza, mukhoza kuchotsa mawu omwe munanena. Tsoka ilo palibe chida choterocho. Mukaika phazi lanu pakamwa panu ndikukhumudwitsa wina, mwachitsanzo, mnzako, palibe chimene mungachite kuti mawu anu asamveke.

Ambiri a ife timadziwa kufunika kokhala ndi maubwenzi abwino kuntchito komanso osanena zinthu ndi cholinga chokhumudwitsa anzathu akuntchito. Kawirikawiri sitidziwa kuti zotsatira zathu zidzakhala bwanji mpaka tachedwa. Nthawi zina timalankhula tisanakhale ndi nthawi yoganizira mosamala za zomwe tikufuna kunena chifukwa timangokhalira kuganiza kapena kuchita zinthu zina. Kawirikawiri, timaganizira zomwe tidzanena koma sitikuganiza kuti zidzakhumudwitsa. Zimachitika kwa aliyense ndipo mwinamwake zinakuchitikirani.

Mwinamwake inu munanena chinthu chodabwitsa chimene mnzako sakuganiza kuti chinali chokongola, anabweretsa mutu wosayenera ku malo ogwira ntchito kapena kutsutsa ntchito yake mwaukali kwambiri. Pokhapokha mukamawona nkhope yake, kodi mumadziwa kuti mwamunyoza. Mochuluka momwe mukufuna kutengera mawu anu, simungathe.

Kodi mungatani? Muli ndi njira zingapo. Mukhoza kunyalanyaza zomwe zachitika ndikuyembekeza kuti mnzanuyo adzakhululukira ndikuiwala.

Izi zikhoza kugwira ntchito koma mobwerezabwereza mudzapitiriza kukayikira ngati zinthu zasinthadi ndi chiyanjano chanu. Njira ina-ndi njira yabwino yopitira patsogolo-ndiyo kuthana nazo mwamsanga kapena mwamsanga mutadziwa kuti pali vuto. Pano pali zinthu zomwe mungathe kuchita, mwachiyembekezo, kukonza vutoli kapena kuti lisapitirize kuwonjezereka.

• Nenani kuti ndikupepesa. Pepani nthawi yomwe muzindikira zomwe zinachitika. Ngakhale ngati mungathe kuchita zonsezi ndikutanthauza "Pepani" ndibwino kusiyana ndi kulola mawu omwe anakhumudwitsa mnzanuyo akukhala mlengalenga. Mukamadikirira, zinthu zowonjezereka zingapezeke. Wogwira naye ntchito angaganize kuti simukudandaula kuti anakhumudwa. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti mumulole kuti adziŵe kuti mumatero, mosasamala kanthu kuti mukuvomereza kuti akanayenera kukhala. Izi zikutifikitsa ku mfundo yotsatira.
• Musadziteteze. Simungamvetse chifukwa chake mnzako akulimbikitsana pa zomwe wanena. Mwachitsanzo, mwinamwake mwamuuza nthabwala zomwe anthu ena adamukomera, komabe nkhope yanu yaofesiyo inasanduka yofiira pakumva. Kodi mfundo yakuti anthu ena sanachite chimodzimodzi amalepheretsa zomwe anachita? Ayi ayi sayenera. Chofunika ndi chakuti iye anakhumudwa ndipo ndicho chomwe muyenera kupepesa. Zonse zomwe mukuyenera kunena ndi "Pepani poyankhula nthabwala zomwe zakukhumudwitsani."
• Zilekeni zikhale. Mutapereka kupepesa kwanu, pitirizani. Palibe chifukwa chokhalira pa zomwe zinachitika. Kuchita zimenezo kumangopitiliza kukumbukira mnzanu wakukhumudwitsa kwanu ndipo palibe chifukwa chomwe mungakonde kuchita zimenezo. Aliyense amalakwitsa kotero siyani kudzimenya nokha.

• Perekani nthawi yothandizira mnzanuyo. Wokondedwa wanu sangathe kukukhululukirani mwamsanga ndipo muyenera kulemekeza zimenezo. Adzalandira kupepesa kwanu pamene ali wokonzeka ndipo palibe chimene mungachitepo.

Pambuyo pochita zoyenera, ndikuyembekeza kuti mutha kukonza ubale wanu ndi mnzako. Ndiye ndi nthawi yoti mupitirire ndi kubwerera kuntchito.