Pezani Malangizo Pa Zolakwa Zopewera ndi Mafunso Oyembekezera
Funsani Zolakwa Zopewera
Kuwonjezera pa kutsimikiza kuti mumawoneka akatswiri ndipo muli pa nthawi - zinthu ziwiri zomwe muyenera kuchita - mukufuna kutsimikizira kuti mwaphunzira mitu yoyenera kuonetsetsa kuti wofunsayo sakukutsutsani pa mafunso aliwonse.
Ngakhale kuti simukuyenera kuganiza za kuyankhulana ngati vuto - otsutsa ambiri sakuyesera kukuyesani kapena kukupezani - simukufuna kutsegula pamene mukufunsidwa funso. Pa chifukwa ichi, muyenera kuphunzira pa zinthu zingapo, ndipo mubwere ndi mayankho a mafunso omwe angakhalepo, tsiku lisanadze.
Mafunso Amene Mungayembekezere
Imodzi mwa mapepala akuluakulu a ziweto inu mumamva omasulira ndikulemba abwana akudandaula za, pa nkhani ya kuyankhulana, akuyankhula ndi omwe akufuna kuti asadziwe kapena kusindikiza. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti ngati mukukambirana pazithunzi za Random House muyenera kudziwa mbiri ya wofalitsa. Komabe, ngati mukufunsana nawo, nenani, Knopf (zolemba zolembedwa pa Random House), muyenera kudziŵa zochitika zina pagawidwe. Ndi mabuku amtundu wanji omwe a Knopf amafalitsa? Kodi olemba ake ndi ndani? Kodi ndi mabuku ati omwe mumawakonda omwe Knopf adasindikiza?
Mutu wodziwa kumene mukukambirana nawo umaphatikizapo mbali zosiyanasiyana zofalitsa. Pamene ndinali kuyankhulana ntchito kuchokera ku koleji, makamaka malo othandizira olemba mabuku m'magazini, ndinadziwa za magazini amenewo. Ndinkadziwa bwino nkhani zomwe anazilemba, ndipo ndinali kuziwerenga.
Choncho, pamene ndinafunsidwa mafunso monga, 'Kodi gawo lanu mumalikonda bwanji?' Ine ndinali ndi yankho pa okonzeka.
Mafunso enanso omwe angandigwetsere, ngati sindinakonzekere, ndi awa: 'Ndi chinthu chiti chomwe mungasinthe pamagaziniyi ngati muli ndi mwayi?' Ndipo: 'Ngati mutatilembera nkhani mawa, zikanakhala zotani?'
Kuti muyankhe mafunso aliwonsewa pamwamba pa bukhu, muyenera kuchidziwa mkati ndi kunja. Sichidzachita podziwa kuti Sports Illustrated ikuphimba masewera kapena Entertainment Weekly imakwirira zosangalatsa. Muyenera kudziwa nkhani zomwe zafalitsidwa posachedwapa ndipo muyenera kudziwa magawo omwe amapezeka m'magaziniyi. ( New Yorker , mwachitsanzo, amagwiritsa ntchito kutsogolo kwake kwa bukhu lochepa pa nkhani zosiyanasiyana. Gawo ili ndi lotchuka ndipo limatchedwa "Talk of Town". Watsopano wa ku New York , ndipo sakudziwa kuti "Nkhani ya Mzinda" ndi yotani, mwinamwake mungayese mwayi wopeza ntchitoyi.)
Mmene Mungatsimikizire Kuti Muli Ndi Mayankho Oyenera
Njira yabwino yokonzekera kuyankhulana ndi ma TV ndi, monga ndanenera pamwambapa, kuti muphunzire omwe mungagwire ntchito . Ngati mukufunsana kuti muwonetsedwe pamagazini, gwiritsani ntchito mndandanda wa masewerawo ndikupita nawo. Sankhani zomwe mungasinthe, ngati mutakhala ndi mwayi. Onetsani zigawo zomwe mumakonda, ndipo sankhani chifukwa chake mumawakonda.
Pezani nkhani zomwe mumakonda ndikuzilemba. (Simukufunikira kukumbukira maudindo enieni, koma idzakhala yowonjezera ngati mungathe.)
Chinthu china choyenera kudziwa, makamaka pamene mukukambirana zambiri, ndi kupeŵa kusakaniza makani. Pamene mukukambirana zambiri, nthawi zambiri mumakhala ndi nthawi yochepa yokonzekera zinthu. Ndiponso, malo omwe mukukambirana nawo nthawi zina amayamba kusonkhana pamodzi. Yesani kusiyanitsa.
Simukufuna kulakwa kunena kuti munakonda nkhani yomwe SI adachita pamene, ndipotu inali nkhani yomwe inapezeka mu ESPN Magazini . Choncho, musanayambe kuyankhulana, penyani mwakuya kuti mutenge zinthu monga izi molunjika pamutu mwanu. Chinthu chimodzi chomwe amachititsa chidwi oyang'anira ndi ena kumunda openga akuwanyengerera chifukwa cha mpikisano wawo.
Kusunga Zanu
Chinthu chimodzi chomwe ndinkamenyana nawo nthawi zonse, ndikukambirana, chinali mitsempha yanga.
Palibe funso kuti kuyankhulana kumakhala kovuta, makamaka pamene muli ndi vuto lofuna ntchito yomwe ikukulemetsani. Izi zikuti, muyenera kuyesa ndi kusunga mitsempha yanu.
Pamene mukuchita mantha kwambiri, mwina mumasowa kapena mumasokonezedwa. (Imodzi ya nkhupakupa zanga ndikulankhula mochuluka, kotero ndimakhala ndikudziwa nthawi imeneyi pamene ndayamba kukambirana. Ndinafunika kusamala kwambiri kuti ndisamalankhulane kwambiri.) Choncho, dziwani zomwe nkhuku zanu zimatulutsa ndisanayambe kuyankhulana kotero kuti mutha kuwasunga.
Chinthu china choyenera kukumbukira ndicho, pamapeto pake, ndikungoyankhulana. Ngati mungathe kuyesa zinthu moyenera, komanso osadzipanikiza, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosavuta kukhala chete. Pitani molimba mtima ndi bata. Ngati mumakhulupirira nokha, ndipo mukulankhula molimba mtima, olemba ntchito adzakwera pa izo.